{"id":771,"date":"2015-09-02T03:01:58","date_gmt":"2015-09-02T03:01:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/?p=260"},"modified":"2024-04-01T09:41:01","modified_gmt":"2024-04-01T16:41:01","slug":"22-the-girl-with-the-most-energy-wins","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/22-the-girl-with-the-most-energy-wins\/","title":{"rendered":"22: The Girl With the Most Energy Wins"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<iframe title=\"Libsyn Player\" style=\"border: none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/3773463\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/backward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/4ac1c0\/\" height=\"90\" width=\"100%\" scrolling=\"no\" allowfullscreen=\"\" webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" oallowfullscreen=\"\" msallowfullscreen=\"\"><\/iframe>\n\n\n<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-1326\" src=\"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Episode-22-Featured-Image-300x187.png\" alt=\"episode-22-featured-image\" width=\"300\" height=\"187\" srcset=\"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Episode-22-Featured-Image-300x187.png 300w, https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Episode-22-Featured-Image.png 767w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>As you know, being a pageant titleholder takes a lot of energy. Often times, you have to smile and wave for three hours regardless of how cold the NYC air is on Thanksgiving Day.<\/p>\n<p>You may have to have entertaining conversations with media correspondents on 2.5 hours of sleep without yawning on national television.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll likely have to speak with grace and gratitude to an school auditorium full of teenagers before lunchtime. And you\u2019ll definitely have to politely negotiate the constant pull of requests for your time and your resources.<\/p>\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"The Girl With the Most Energy Wins (Episode 22)\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/DBtymQSNF-w?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #b74ad1;\"><strong>All competitions are won in the combination of strategy and tenacity.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Strategy is the process of preparation and tenacity is the proper management of energy, especially when the tanks are under pressure.<\/p>\n<p>Many great leaders, including <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/blog\/bouncing-back\/201210\/whoever-has-the-most-energy-wins\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Psychology Today<\/a> and one of my favorite business\/life coaches, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.blairsinger.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Blair Singer<\/a>, says \u201cThe person with the most energy wins.\u201d Mr. Singer\u00a0is referencing business, relationships, and life, but this concept also applies to pageantry.<\/p>\n<p>I first heard a version of this as it relates to pageantry from <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Miss_Pennsylvania\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Emily Wills, Miss Pennsylvania America 2006.<\/a> I was competing to be her successor. It was a grueling pageant week for me, on top of the many months of difficult preparation I endured. I honestly couldn\u2019t wait for it to be over.<\/p>\n<p>The night of finals, I sat next to Emily in hair and make up and asked for one piece of advice about success at <a href=\"http:\/\/www.missamerica.org\/default.aspx\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Miss America<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Her response was completely unexpected\u2026she said,\u00a0<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"color: #b74ad1; text-align: center;\">\u201cTenacity. The winner is the one who makes it to the finish line.\u201d<\/h3>\n<p>I wish I would\u2019ve asked her months before, because the night of finals is not the time to be attempting to reserve energy.<\/p>\n<p>What Emily was teaching me was that Pageant winners have to know how to effectively manage their energy \u2013 first to win, and then to serve as the titleholder. Right after a winner wins, she is usually escorted to a reception where she has to give an acceptance speech, then smile for photos with everyone and their brother \u2013 literally. Then, she may be launched into a week-long media tour followed by a professional on-location photo-shoot on the beach \u2013 hopefully not in the winter.<\/p>\n<p>If you don\u2019t know how to manage your energy, you will be left exhausted even before the pageant ends\u2026and that is how women lose pageants.<\/p>\n<p>The good news is that energy is a renewable resource. If you feel low on energy, what do you do? Take a nap, eat healthy food, take a vacation, listen to uplifting music, surround yourself with encouraging people, laugh, meditate, workout\u2026renewing your energy seems to come more intuitively than conserving energy.<\/p>\n<p>Conserving energy is key in pageantry. The year I won Miss California, there was an outstanding contestant in my group. She looked the part to perfection, she was always at the gym when I arrived and still there when I left each day, she was constantly posting on social media and diligent about her meals. The night before the pageant, she was on fire at the gala!<\/p>\n<p>But, pageant night she didn\u2019t even place.<\/p>\n<p>I remember looking at her thinking I ought to perk it up a bit and dig into my energy reserve to match her outgoing personality that night, but that wasn\u2019t my strategy and certainly would have drained my tenacity.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, I stuck the course of energy conservation for the moment to shine. It\u2019s a subtle difference with a huge impact.<\/p>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #b74ad1;\"><strong>So, how do you manage your energy?<\/strong><\/span><\/h4>\n<p>Glad you asked\u2026<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #b74ad1;\">Two things:<\/span><br \/>+ Maximize the things that add energy<br \/>+ Minimize the things that drain energy.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Throughout your day, you\u2019ll encounter many things that drain your energy, like decision-making (even the smallest decisions of what to have for breakfast take energy), arguing, emotional distress, physical activity, and even just being awake!<\/p>\n<p><strong>The more drainage you have during the day \u2013 or pageant week in our case \u2013 the more you need to fill up and refuel.<\/strong> But, pageant week doesn&#8217;t offer a lot of time to refuel, therefore you have to rely on limiting drainage<\/p>\n<p>In pageantry, I\u2019ve found that the most draining activities are:<br \/>+ Ignoring a Preparation Plan (workout plan, training strategy), which leads to feelings of regret and \u201cshoulda, coulda, woulda\u201d<br \/>+ Mindset of comparison, which makes you focus on your lack rather than your value<br \/>+ Worry of not winning, and focusing on your fears<br \/>+ Drama of negativity, gossip, complaining, hurting others, being mean<br \/>+ Last-minute decision-making, unpreparedness<br \/>+ Responsibility of activity, just doing-stuff<\/p>\n<p>Here are the best ways to stop draining yourself during pageant week:\u00a0<\/p>\n<h4 style=\"color: #b74ad1; font-weight: bold;\">Don\u2019t care so much about what the other contestants are doing, thinking, eating, saying, wearing<\/h4>\n<p>Thoroughbreds run their own race. You have a strategy, stick to it. Shield against being drained by other people\u2019s strategies during pageant week.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h4 style=\"color: #b74ad1; font-weight: bold;\">Don\u2019t worry about not winning.<\/h4>\n<p>Keep your eyes on the prize. If you\u2019ve done your homework, brought your best self, and prepared exceptionally, then it doesn\u2019t matter how much you worry, it will not help you. It will only drain your energy reserve. Shield yourself against the outcomes you can\u2019t control once pageant week begins.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h4 style=\"color: #b74ad1; font-weight: bold;\">Don\u2019t be drug into the negative drama<\/h4>\n<p>The moment someone utters even a whisper of gossip or negatively, find a polite excuse and remove yourself from the situation. Words are powerful, just hearing negative comments will let them seep into your psyche. Shield against drainage from negativity \u2013 at all times!\u00a0<\/p>\n<h4 style=\"color: #b74ad1; font-weight: bold;\">Don\u2019t leave yourself with last minute decisions to make<\/h4>\n<p>Make all decisions before you go to the pageant. That goes for exactly which earrings you\u2019ll wear for the school visit and how you\u2019ll wear your hair to the trip to the zoo. Be detail oriented in advance so you can shield against decision-making during the pageant.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h4 style=\"color: #b74ad1; font-weight: bold;\">Don\u2019t leave all the duties up to you alone<\/h4>\n<p>It takes a team to win a pageant. That\u2019s why there are vendors for every element of competition from wardrobe styling to makeup and hair. Hire someone else to do what you don\u2019t have to do. You can\u2019t hire someone to walk the runway for you, but you can hire someone to do your make up and zip your dress. Don\u2019t attempt to create a 3-month pageant training strategy on your own. Hire someone to do that for you. Your energy is precious and the more that you delegate the things other people could do (and do better than you could, by the way), the more energy you\u2019ll conserve for what you do best!<\/p>\n<p>Managing your energy isn\u2019t about being a wallflower or not talking to other contestants (unless those things are particularly draining in which case I recommend limiting them), it\u2019s about being wise in where you put your efforts.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h4 style=\"color: #b74ad1; font-weight: bold;\">Here\u2019s what I want you to do now:<\/h4>\n<p>Step 1:\u00a0Make a list of the things that you know are particularly draining \u2013 put them in two categories, 1 to avoid all together (this would be like the gossip and drama-rama), and the other one that is necessary to pageantry (like creating a winning pageant strategy, make up, hair, platform ads, etc)<\/p>\n<p>Step 2: From that list, in the category of avoidance, I want you to brainstorm a way you can avoid these. For example, the other contestants talking smack, you could say, excuse me and exit the conversation. For every element on the other list of necessary pageant elements, think of a person that you can outsource those things to. I know that a pageant preparation strategy is on every pageant girls\u2019 list, and that is my specialty, so if I were you, I\u2019d write Alycia Darby next to that one \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n<p>Step 3: Start outsourcing. Find the contact information for someone on every element of your pageant needs \u2013 reach out to them in advance to ensure that they are a fit. If it\u2019s a make up artist you love, make sure they are available that day so that if not, you can find someone who is.<\/p>\n<p>Step 4: Make a list of all the things that add energy to you! For me, those things are yoga, prayer, 8 hours of sleep, and a giant spinach and fruit salad. Start to do more of these things every day to put energy back into your essence.<\/p>\n<p>The hardest part about this is not the outsourcing, it\u2019s the avoiding draining activities. So start practicing that now. Only spend your time with uplifting people, walk away from negative conversations, stay focused on your own strategy and don\u2019t concern yourself with the comparison of others.<\/p>\n<p>If some of these ideas are new to you, then there is likely a few other things you may also love to learn. I teach a ton of concepts in my Free Pageant Course and I\u2019d love for you to have an advantage in your next pageant. This week, we had nearly 100 new contestants from all over the US join the Free Pageant Course, and I\u2019d love for you to be among these incredible women!<\/p>\n<p><em>That ladies is how you win a pageant!<\/em>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h3>\u00a0<\/h3>\n<h3>Contact Information<\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.instagram.com\/alyciadarby\">@AlyciaDarby<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/winapageant\">WinAPageant Facebook<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>For more great pageant training, enroll in the\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/freepageantcourse.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Free Pageant Course<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><a href=\"http:\/\/freepageantcourse.com\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"700\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Free-Pageant-Course-1.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-3269\" srcset=\"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Free-Pageant-Course-1.png 700w, https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Free-Pageant-Course-1-300x129.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 700px) 100vw, 700px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-1518\" src=\"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/Featured-Image-Template-1-remaining-25-300x187.jpg\" alt=\"featured-image-template-1-remaining-25\" width=\"300\" height=\"187\" srcset=\"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/Featured-Image-Template-1-remaining-25-300x187.jpg 300w, https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/Featured-Image-Template-1-remaining-25.jpg 767w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>As you know, being a pageant titleholder takes a lot of energy. Often times, you have to smile and wave for three hours regardless of how cold the NYC air is on Thanksgiving Day.<\/p>\n<p>You may have to have entertaining conversations with media correspondents on 2.5 hours of sleep without yawning on national television.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll likely have to speak with grace and gratitude to an school auditorium full of teenagers before lunchtime.<\/p>\n<p>And you\u2019ll definitely have to politely negotiate the constant pull of requests for your time and your resources.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":1326,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"inline_featured_image":false,"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[34,35,43,47],"tags":[95,97,110,149],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/771"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=771"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/771\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8170,"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/771\/revisions\/8170"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1326"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=771"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=771"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=771"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}