{"id":773,"date":"2015-09-16T03:03:15","date_gmt":"2015-09-16T03:03:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/?p=278"},"modified":"2024-04-01T09:32:18","modified_gmt":"2024-04-01T16:32:18","slug":"24-stop-being-so-perfect-youre-driving-us-crazy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/24-stop-being-so-perfect-youre-driving-us-crazy\/","title":{"rendered":"24: Stop being so Perfect! You\u2019re driving us crazy!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<iframe title=\"Libsyn Player\" style=\"border: none\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/3802254\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/backward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/4ac1c0\/\" height=\"90\" width=\"100%\" scrolling=\"no\" allowfullscreen=\"\" webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" oallowfullscreen=\"\" msallowfullscreen=\"\"><\/iframe>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignleft\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"187\" src=\"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Episode-24-Featured-Image-300x187.png\" alt=\"episode-24-featured-image\" class=\"wp-image-1328\" srcset=\"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Episode-24-Featured-Image-300x187.png 300w, https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/Episode-24-Featured-Image.png 767w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p>Today I want to share with you the difference between perfect and real.<br><br>Many pageant contestants believe in order to win, they must project some illusive image of perfection \u2013 the perfect hair, perfect nails, perfect teeth, perfect walk, talk, smile, etc\u2026<br><br><strong>May I just say boldly: That stuff is for the birds!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"Stop being so Perfect - You\u2019re driving us crazy (Episode 24)\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/v_Orkh6MVxU?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>The reason that pageants get this bad rap is because of their seemingly perfectly poised contestants. They all glide onto stage with glimmering teeth and size 2 bodies. It\u2019s hard to not look at them from the audience and thing \u201cShe is absolutely perfect.\u201d<br>\u00a0<br>But, when it comes time for her to deliver her on-stage answer to a tough political question or hug a child at an appearance, \u2018perfection\u2019 is far less attractive. In these areas, on-lookers would rather experience someone who is real, approachable, likeable and trustworthy.<br>\u00a0<br>My favorite illustration of this is from my second year competing at states in Miss Pennsylvania. My sister-queen, Lucy, who was crowned as my peer in my same local pageant was a spark-plug! I mean, really a loose canon \u2013 she was totally hilarious and everyone wanted to be around her. I, however, was trying to be Little Miss Perfection. I was crossing all my T\u2019s and dotting all my I\u2019s driving everyone crazy with me \u201cDoes this look ok or should I put it a quarter-inch higher. Should I wear these gorgeous rhinestone earrings or these gorgeous rhinestone earrings? Should I go first or should I go last? I\u2019m certain I was driving everyone crazy.<br>\u00a0<br>Then comes the interview portion of competition.<br>\u00a0<br>My sister-queen Lucy was ahead of me and came out of the interview laughing and smiling (of course that made me terribly nervous that one could have so much fun in such a serious environment).<br>\u00a0<br>I got into my interview \u2013 squeaked through most of the time, I\u2019m sure \u2013 and left the room only feeling relieved that I made it through without too many political questions \u2013 most of which I knew I wouldn\u2019t be prepared for.<br>\u00a0<br>Later Lucy told me the reason she was laughing so much was because she got the most ridiculous interview question!<br>\u00a0<br>At the time \u2013 like 10 years ago, our nation under President Bush\u2019s leadership was struggling to protect our southern border and all sorts of ideas were coming up like building a giant wall, hiring more soldiers to patrol it \u2013 there were really no good answers for like 4 years.<br>\u00a0<br>Lucy said during her interview, the judges asked her \u201cWhat is your solution to the border control issues our nation is facing right now?\u201d<br>\u00a0<br>As a perfect pageant contestant, my answer at the time may have been something like \u201cThis is a very difficult issue for our nation. Since the beginning of time, any country\u2019s main objection is to protect it\u2019s land with some form of control. I trust our government will find a solution.\u201d<br>\u00a0<br>And the judges\u2019 would\u2019ve shrugged and moved on.<br>\u00a0<br>Not Lucy! Listen to what she said: \u201cWhat?! Really! If I knew the answer to that, I\u2019d call up President Bush and say, Bush \u2013 I figured it out! He\u2019d probably give me a million dollars.\u201d<br>\u00a0<br>The whole judges panel busted out in laughter at her very real, approachable, honest, likeable, and hilarious answer! She said what everyone else was thinking \u2013 even without making anyone feel silly for asking this loaded question.<br>\u00a0<br>That year, Lucy won the interview award and a good chunk of change!<br>\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The truth is: The more real you are, the more approachable, likeable, <br>and trustworthy you become.Don\u2019t mistake respectable for perfect.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;<br>I want to share with you 5 ways to discover if you are trying to be more perfect than real.<br>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;<br><strong>You may be too perfect\u2026<\/strong><br>+ If you wish you didn\u2019t have to do all this work to get ready for an appearance. Real girls learn how to do what they must and then chalk the rest up to human.<br>&nbsp;<br>+ If you have to think before you respond to a question, and then often wonder if you answered the way they wanted you to. Real girls respond how they feel and don\u2019t need to justify their beliefs<br>&nbsp;<br>+ If you use your physical or natural human characteristics (which you can\u2019t control) as excuses for why you aren\u2019t winning: my nose is too long, my chin is to short, my face is too round, my boobs are too small. Real girls embrace their natural qualities and seek to better themselves with their healthy, their professional skills and their personal development more than their physical attributes.<br>&nbsp;<br>+ If you are feeling like you don\u2019t belong among these girls or in this dress or with this crown. Real girls experience the imposter syndrome, too (which we\u2019ll talk about next week), but they don\u2019t let it be their focus, instead the embrace the opportunity to grow, connect, learn, and give back despite how others\u2019 view them.<br>&nbsp;<br>+ If you are trying to impress the judges more than you impress yourself. Real girls stick to their values and don\u2019t compromise their personal truth for the favorable judgment of others.<br>&nbsp;<br>Listen to me very carefully: if you have done your homework, and you have taken your time to prepare, and you know you are truly suited to win this pageant than you need to give up the Perfect Gig and start to be Real. Because gigs don\u2019t work \u2013 only real does.<br>&nbsp;<br><strong>The more real you are; the more approachable, likeable, trustworthy and respectable you become.<\/strong><br>&nbsp;<br><em>That, ladies is how you win a pageant!<\/em><br>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Contact Information<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.instagram.com\/alyciadarby\">@AlyciaDarby<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/winapageant\">WinAPageant Facebook<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>For more great pageant training, enroll in the&nbsp;<a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"http:\/\/freepageantcourse.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">Free Pageant Course<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><a href=\"http:\/\/freepageantcourse.com\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"700\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Free-Pageant-Course-1.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-3269\" srcset=\"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Free-Pageant-Course-1.png 700w, https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Free-Pageant-Course-1-300x129.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 700px) 100vw, 700px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-1524\" src=\"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/Featured-Image-Template-1-remaining-27-300x187.jpg\" alt=\"featured-image-template-1-remaining-27\" width=\"300\" height=\"187\" srcset=\"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/Featured-Image-Template-1-remaining-27-300x187.jpg 300w, https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/09\/Featured-Image-Template-1-remaining-27.jpg 767w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Today I want to share with you the difference between perfect and real.<\/p>\n<p>Many pageant contestants believe in order to win, they must project some illusive image of perfection \u2013 the perfect hair, perfect nails, perfect teeth, perfect walk, talk, smile, etc\u2026<\/p>\n<p>May I just say boldly: That stuff is for the birds!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":1328,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"inline_featured_image":false,"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[34,35,36,43,47],"tags":[95,97,110,149],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/773"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=773"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/773\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8166,"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/773\/revisions\/8166"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1328"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=773"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=773"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/winapageant.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=773"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}