Hey, girl! Today is the day! If you are joining me on the day this podcast is live December 14th then you are in luck, chica! Today is the final 2016 Pageant Interview Master Class – “The 4 Steps to Gain Confidence in Your Pageant Interview”. This is the last time I’ll be teaching this exact material for free.
Join me Live on Facebook today at 3:00pm San Diego time (that’s 6:00pm ET) on the WinAPageant Facebook page. We’re talking about how to connect with the judges, and the 4 steps that HAVE to be a part of your pageant interview preparation strategy. If you are serious about winning your pageant this year, you need to be a part of this free training to get your ducks all lined up, girl!
If you’re the type of girl that won’t remember, tell Siri to remind you right now or go to Facebook.com/WinAPageant and like the page so you’ll get a notification when we go live later today. See you this afternoon!
Ok.. let’s dive into today’s episode of the Win A Pageant Podcast. I’m your coach Alycia Darby. Most women know they need to practice for their interview, but it tends to get confusing on exactly HOW to practice. Today, I’m going to break down the 3 ways of practicing for your pageant and give you some examples of how you can do each one.
This is practice that doesn’t require much effort. It’s Googling around for questions online and then thinking in your mind how you may answer them. Or, flipping through pageant flash cards asking yourself questions. It’s low effort because it doesn’t require anyone else be a part of it. I believe this type of practice is important. So much so that I actually give all my VIP clients custom Flash Cards they can use to practice. But, this alone isn’t going to win you the pageant it’s easy to do, but doesn’t have much reward.
Real Life Practice
It requires far more effort. This is when you are interviewed by a media station or share a q-and-a from stage as visiting royalty at an appearance. It’s real life practice that requires some effort because it involves more than just you sitting at your desk. It requires a plan, an outfit, a microphone, a whole set of circumstances to support the practice. It pays off, too! But, still not as much as the third form of practice.
Mock Interview Practice
Ya can’t beat it! It takes a ton of effort, but has the greatest reward for your success in your pageant because it is a simulation of the actual experience. It gives you the best opportunity to feel the true emotions of the interview process and practice your skills in the exact environment. It takes some effort to set up because there are lots of other people involved, you are responsible to find a location, invite the right people, lead the process, explain it to the mock judges, film it, thank everyone… it’s not easy, but then if it were, everyone would be doing it.
If you want to win your pageant, you have to out-practice to out-perform the competition. A good rule-of-thumb is to plan a mock interview once a month. After monthly interviews, you’ll have the process down, you’ll know how to distinguish valuable verses silly feedback that you’ll get, and you’ll be practiced, but not rehearsed.
Mock Interview practice gives you the best opportunity to feel the true emotions of the interview process.
Not all practice is created equal. It is not enough to scroll through questions online and think you are prepared. Schedule a mock interview to get some experience to increase your confidence.
Today, I’m telling you the truth about the “Fake it ‘til you make it” concept. You’ve likely heard this phrase before when someone is trying to beef up their confidence toward an effort they aren’t prepared for.
Many pageant women think “Fake it til you make it” means to keep pretending you know what you’re doing until someone gives you a big break. As if, you could fake it over and over again and at some point someone will throw you a bone.
Those girls never actually make it. The people that have succeeded with this concept are the ones who have found the right tools and put in the work to make it.
Many people have succeeded in their careers by confidently claiming their knowledge, skills, or position before stepping into it. The difference between those that actually “Make it” really depends on who stops at the fake it part and who moves into the make it phase. YOU fake it, then YOU make it.
Making it is a learning process. It’s the phase of gathering information, trying new things, and growing your knowledge base until you no longer have to fake it because you’ve made it a part of who you are.
You have to actively participate in the making part, not just the faking part.
Gary Cohn is a great example of this.
He’s the current President of Goldman Sachs. He shared a cab with a financial big-wig who was starting a new branch of finance in his company. Gary claimed he knew all about the topic and was hired on the spot to start two weeks later. The truth is: he knew nothing at that moment, but he knew he could figure it out! In those two weeks he bought the only book he needed that walked him through every element of the topic until he knew more than anyone else. Now, Gary is the President of the financial giant worth almost 40-billion dollars. He faked it and then he made it.
We’re all faking it as we’re learning… the learning is the making process.
When I coach my clients, I tell them what the pageant expects. I help them to uncover their personal truth and then we blend that together, sometimes for the first time ever. My clients are wearing wardrobe they never would’ve considered, going from mascara and chap stick to full-face highlights and bronzer, and starting to walk taller than ever. They speak new confidence and realize their core values deeper than ever.
Ann Smarty is now an SEO expert in the online world. She started by buying a website called SEO Smarty and charging low rates for web services to gain a lot of clients she could learn from. For every client, she took a deep-dive into exactly what they needed and learned everything she could on the topic until she was an expert. Then, she raised her rates and is now serving businesses around the world.
The learning process is a transformation process from knowing nothing (or very little) to becoming a master. In pageantry, it’s Making YOU into a titleholder. For the first little while you’ll be faking it with the new wardrobe, posture, confident expression, and clear communication. But soon, you’ll have made it a part of who you are.
Determine your “it” – what is it that you need to master
Find the best training tool you can to minimize time and maximize results so you aren’t faking it for a long time
Make it happen! Learn until it becomes a part of you
Don’t skip the “Make it” part or you’ll never get there.
Fake it until you Make it… but absolutely MAKE it a part of who you are.