177: Pageant Platform Tip to Stand Out

I wanted to share something with you today that I think can help as you are preparing your platform, specifically, I call it a legacy project. A legacy project is like a platform, but there’s specific things that we do to make it even better. Something that you can actually use to then leverage for your interview, for media appearances, for on-stage questions. It just makes everything so much easier!


I talk about this in chapter four of my book, Create a Powerful Platform that starts on page 77 and the very first insert talks about the six things that you need to know for your pageant platform.


Number five, this has been coming up a lot lately. So this is why I specifically wanted to share this with you. And that is to focus on the light. I’m going to just teach this to you. It’s in the book. So maybe you’ve read this paragraph, but I want to go a little bit more in depth around this. Because it’s something that I think a lot of people make a mistake on and I don’t want you to make this mistake.


Oftentimes, what women do, especially when they’re new to pageantry, is they choose a topic that they want to raise awareness around or educate around throughout their year. But they choose that topic based on the problem that they see in the world. And that’s okay because the problems are so evident in our world, so we see something and we’re like, “Ah, I want to change that. I want to fix that.” And so, oftentimes what women do is they choose the problem. Let’s put the problem over here. Okay. “Here’s the problem. And this is the thing I want to raise awareness about, I want to make a change on.” Or whatever. What I want you to do instead, in order to stand out from all the other women who are focusing on the problem, is I want you to focus on the light.


So what do I mean by that? Well, every problem is kind of like the shadow, right? There’s like a shadow sign in the problem. But what I want you to do is find the light. Where is the hope in that problem? Another way of looking at it is the solution. What’s the solution to the problem? Let me tell you this too, there’s usually many solutions to a specific problem. What we work on together, as your coach, is I help you identify your specific solution to the problem. Something that comes only from your perspective.


So, how do you do that? Well, let’s take, for example, bullying. Bullying is a major problem in our world in many different capacities, at a lot of different levels. Everything from kindergarten bullying, all the way up to workplace bullying. There’s so many and many, many things in between. So instead of just saying, “Oh, I want to stop bullying.” That would be focusing on the shadow side, focusing on the problem by naming it and saying, “Oh, it’s bullying. I want to stop bullying.” What I want you to do instead is, what actually is the solution to bullying? Is it helping people make friends? Maybe it’s just that people don’t know how to make friends. And so, they’re wandering around alone and they feel like the only way to find self-worth is by putting other people down.


What you might say is, “You know what? The best solution to that is teaching people how to find and make friendships genuinely so they can find a fit in the world.” That’s one solution that you might say, for example. Another one might be that maybe there’s a solution that you say that, “Bullying needs to actually be spoken about.” We actually have to figure out, and identify what is bullying and why do we not do that? And so your solution might be four steps to help people understand and combat bullying by identifying it and by choosing a different path or something. That’s the light side of it.


Now, whatever your solution to the problem is, it’s going to come specifically from your individual experience. That’s what makes it so unique. So, while everybody else is out there, like, “Yep. We’re going to combat bullying,” or, “Yeah, I’m bringing awareness to heart disease.” I did that for years. I was like, “Oh, I’m just raising awareness for heart disease.” That’s fine. Because awareness is, I mean, it’s good to know that there is heart disease, but it’s not really solving the problem. We’ve got to solve the problem. So, when I first started in pageantry, I chose heart disease and I was like, “I’m bringing awareness to heart disease and all the problems about heart disease.” And it wasn’t until I got this, it clicked with me, the legacy project clicked, that I was like, “Ah, what if instead of focusing all my energy on pointing out the problem to everybody, if instead I created a solution and I said, ‘This is the solution’?”


That is how for me, Get a Better Body was created, through lots of research. Through lots of personal development and personal understanding and coaching. I discovered, “Ah, this is really the solution. It’s get a better body.” And Get a Better Body was my solution, my light, focusing on the light to answer and address that problem.


That’s what I want you to do. I want you to focus on the light. How can you still address that problem, but from your unique, specific ideas of what your solution can be? That is how you stand out. Because while everybody else is talking about bullying, you will have a specific solution. And that, my dear, is how you win a pageant!


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83: What to Wear to Pageant Rehearsal


episode-83-featured-image Wardrobe is always worth considering. It’s a contestant’s worst nightmare to arrive to the first pageant rehearsal in sneakers and an oversized t-shirt you wore to the gym in college only to find all the other girls dressed in their Sunday best – even though the paperwork said to dress ‘comfortably.’


“Comfortable” is a relative adjective. To pageant girls, it means to skip the Jessica Simpson shoes for their Michael Kors wedges and exchange rhinestones and lace for spandex and silk.


In today’s episode, I’m going to teach you how to decide what to wear to your pageant rehearsal. In a competition, you have to be your best all the way around. You have to exude excellence from the very beginning – that means planning your wardrobe so it’s up to snuff with the competition… in fact, it is better than the competition.


You’ll want to select all of your rehearsal outfits in advance and pack them according to the day you’ll wear them. I recommend having your outfits start off more subdued and then save the dressier ones for closer to the pageant day. It does two things: First, usually you’ll be doing more movement in the earlier days like learning the dance and stuff so you’ll want to be more comfortable and second, as you get closer to the title, you’ll want to step up your game and feel more like a queen.


Also, consider the branding of the pageant itself. Miss International and Galaxy pageants are very glitzy and high-glamour; think: rhinestones galore. The Miss USA pageant is high-fashion model-type, so less rhinestones and more Calvin Klein appeal. The Miss America system is somewhat more conservative than others but still stylish and high-class.


The trick here is to envision you’ve already won. What would you wear
if you already won the title.


I want to break down three easy steps that will take you about 60-seconds to consider and help you plan your wardrobe for a week or more of pageant rehearsals.


First, name your style.

I call my style, “professionally-fit.” Most days of the week, I’m rockin’ lulu leggings and a brightly colored blouse. When I go shopping, I have a vision in my head, maybe even a Pinterest board on my phone to consider if what I’m about to try on or buy fits my style. If not, I skip it. If yes, move onto step #2.


Second, consider the context

Of course, you’ll consider the context being the fact that you are competing in a beauty pageant, so you can’t win if you’re wearing loafers and a ripped t-shirt from 7th grade. So, there’s that. But what I mean here is to consider what you’ll be doing in rehearsal on each day. If you’re learning the opening number dance that day, you’ll want to wear something more moveable. If you’ll be in the freezing cold auditorium from 7am to 7pm, wear lots of layers.


Third, make it cover-ready

This is the final step. You’re in the dressing room fully clothed in your new potential outfit. I want you to consider this: if someone took your picture and posted it on the front of your favorite magazine, would you approve? Always wear something that you’d approve of in photos because you will be photographed and you will regret flats, pants that are a size too big, and a pilling sweater.


Most rehearsals request that contestants wear snappy casual clothes – that’s something you’d wear on a first date or on a night out with the girls. Usually jeans, trendy top, fashionable accessories. Some pageants, like the Miss International Pageant have a culture of glitz and glam even in the rehearsals. Since there is no talent portion of that pageant, it’s easier to wear a cocktail dress to rehearsal – and many of them do. I didn’t.


Great outfits to consider for any pageant rehearsal are: Jumpsuits, rompers, sheath dresses – they are classy, trendy, and easy to dress up and comfortable for all day sitting, standing and dancing in.


What you wear will largely impact how you feel and ultimately, how you preform on stage that week. So, get yourself together, dress it up, step into your future title. Don’t over-think it, of course, but don’t forget it either.


Because, that, my dear, is how you win a pageant.


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69: The 7 Steps to Book a Pageant Appearance


Win A Pageant Podcast-04One common misconception of winning a pageant is the idea that when you win a pageant, you’ll be swept away into some fairytale land where you get a business manager, PR specialist and full glam team. The reason people believe this is because this is what happens in some pageants – namely Miss USA or Miss America. But, for most pageant winners, this is not the case. In fact, when you win your pageant you are actually expected to be the one to book your own appearances. Sometimes, you are contractually obligated to do 2 or more per month, so this is a necessary skill long before you win the title.


In this episode I’m going to share with you the 7 steps to book appearances like a true pageant professional with or without a crown.



55: Getting the Scoop from Former Titleholders

Podcast Cover Photos-18Before any of my clients commits to a pageant, I always recommend that she talk with former titleholders to best understand her experience from her perspective. With multiple perspectives, you get a stronger view of whether or not this pageant would be a good fit for you.

I did this the first time I competed in a state pageant and I learned a TON – nothing that scared me away from the pageant, but every piece of insight and advice set me up for success in my competition.

Of course, any time you are asking for anything, even advice, from a former titleholder, you have to approach it with grace and respect. In this episode, I’ll give you a list of what to do and what not to do when approaching a former titleholder of your pageant.

54: Answers to Your Pageant Questions


Podcast Cover Photos-19Today’s episode is a little different.  I get a lot of questions over email and social media. Quick questions that have a pretty short and to-the-point answer. I always respond to anyone who messages or emails me – so please don’t be shy if you have a question!

A few weeks ago, I posted some answers to your questions on YouTube, and I wanted to make sure you got the answers here, too. These are really great questions – most of them are about wardrobe choices for various phases of competition, and there’s one whammy one at the end about current events.


53: 7 Must-Know Pageant Etiquette Tips to Protect Your Reputation

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I’d like to give a special thank you to those of you who have completed the Pageant Interview Questionnaire – it is fascinating to read what you are really needing and I love the ideas you have! Even the responses that are just echoing what we already know everyone needs like mock interviews and samples of good and bad interviews – this stuff is helping me so much! I’m going to leave the survey up through the end of this week and I’d love to get your feedback!

If you haven’t yet, would you mind taking just 5 minutes to fill out the questionnaire. It asks 10 questions about pageant interview and I’m using the feedback to create more trainings for you.

When you fill out the questionnaire, you’ll get the mini-series How to Answer the Hardest Pageant Interview Questions, as a “Thank You!” for your time and to support your pageant interview prep!

If you’ve done it – thank you, I appreciate you! 

So, today’s episode is going to uncover some Pageant Etiquette, which I believe is vital to maintaining your reputation in the pageant industry