You probably already know my philosophy on pageant paperwork. If not, I’ll tell you. The top 10 contestants can usually be selected from paperwork alone. Most pageant women don’t put a lot of thought or effort into their paperwork, but for my clients, we take days crafting it to guide the interview and give them a leg up. One question that comes up a lot is whether or not they should put their old pageant title on another pageant paperwork.
For example, if they were Miss Great Lakes 2014 in the Miss America Organization, they wonder if they should put that on their application for the Miss USA Pageant.
People have differing opinions on this and because each system is so different, there’s not really a right or wrong way. Instead, in this episode, I’m going to share with you 7 thoughts a judge may have when they see (or don’t see) past titles on your paperwork. Hopefully, this gives you the insight you need to help you decide for yourself.
When a judge sees a past title on the paperwork they may think:
1. Oh, goodie! This one’s gonna be good!
If that is totally true, like you are head and shoulders above your competition, then do it! If you truly know you aren’t an outlier, then leave it off. You’ll get scored lower if you don’t live up to their inflated expectations.
2. Oh, good. She knows what to expect with a title.
If your past title and the title you’re competing for is more of a lateral move or a down-step in terms of audience reach and level of responsibility, then keep it on there. For example, if you were Miss USA and you’re competing for Miss World, I say leave it on there. If you were Miss Glory of the Heartlands and now you’re competing for Miss Three Rivers, then keep it on there. However, don’t put Miss Glory of the Heartlands 2013 on your 2016 application for Miss New York.
3. Oh, boy. We have a lifer.
This could put an instant target on your head. Especially if you list out like 5 former titles over the last 7 years, you may get an eye roll and someone looking to trip you off of your pageant patty’ persona. In this case, if you put it on there, you’ll want to make sure you come off incredibly warm, friendly, and… well, normal.
4. Cool, I’m excited to talk to this one.
If your judge loves pageant women, she’s gonna love you. She’ll feel connected like she’s got something to talk about and trust that you know what you’re doing. If you don’t impress her, she may be disappointed and could score extra-low to give someone else the opportunity.
5. Uh-oh. This girl may not be loyal.
Some pageant systems prefer you only speak of their pageant. It makes sense, if you were representing Pepsi, they wouldn’t want you talking about how you had a great year when you worked for Coke. You’ll have to be prepared to express why you’re overly interested in this new system. It will have to be better than, well, I aged out of the other one, so thought I’d try it here. Be prepared.
When a judge sees no past titles on the paperwork they may think:
6. Hmm…I wonder if she has experience
Sometimes the judges really do want you to have pageant experience. Some pageant directors actually ask the judges to greatly consider contestants with prior experience, especially in their system because it usually makes for a better year. For these pageants, you’ll want to show up looking like a total pro and maybe even bring up your experience in your interview if you don’t put it on there.
7. Nothing at all.
They may not even notice and they’ll lump you in with all the other girls that didn’t put titles on their paperwork. You’ll come in with a fresh slate and they may still ask you (especially if you show up well prepared and obviously experienced), but then it’s a pleasant surprise.
The bottom line is this: It’s usually safe to include if you are making a lateral move (Miss USA to Miss World) or if you’re competing at the higher level within your pageant system (Miss Nevada to Miss USA)
The most important thing to consider is how you’ll walk into the first round of competition. If you say you have experience, you better show up prepared, sharp, engaging, and talented. They’ll be expecting a winner and you’ll have to be ready to prove yourself. If you are, then I say go for it! Put it on there loud and proud, then prepare yourself to prove your awesomeness.
And that, my dear, is how you win a pageant.
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One thing that is obvious to most pageant women is that in order to win your pageant, you have to truly be a star. When you meet a star, you’ll know it, but it’s hard to explain what it really means to be a star. It’s also evident when it’s not there – when something is missing even if you can’t quite put your finger on what exactly is missing.
The Miss Universe pageant was this past weekend and what an incredible pageant that is! Every single one of the 86 women from around the world is a celebrity. They are stunningly beautiful models. They have bright smiles, graceful walks, and incredible hair. But, not all of them are stars.
In an interview after the pageant, one judge was asked why a certain contestant (who seemingly had the whole package) didn’t make it into the finals. The judge simply said that something was missing. The host asked what was missing. The judge said, well I don’t know, but something just wasn’t there.
That something, I believe, is the star quality.
Just as tough as it is to explain the star quality, it’s even harder to know whether or not you have it. Although it’s noticeable to everyone else, it may not be to you. Do you truly have the star quality necessary to win your pageant and take your message to the top? I have great news:
Everyone has the potential to exude this star quality.
Today, we’re going to unpack exactly what this star quality looks like through the analogy of a real star in the galaxy. Then, I’m going to explain how being a star gets you to the top. Finally, I’m going to break down how you can exude that star quality to get to the top!
First, let me compare for you a star in outer space with a woman who is a true pageant start. For the sake of this analogy, let’s use a star from far off in our galaxy.
– A star in the galaxy is a bright beam of natural burning gas that radiates light that can be seen from a far distance. A pageant star is someone who radiates light from a far distance. It can be seen from miles away. She simply walks into a room and brightens it up. People notice her.
– A star in the galaxy is always there, shining brightly not matter who is looking because someone is always looking. The best time to see it is when your side of the world is covered in darkness and when the sun is gone. When the sun comes up for you, the other part of the world is in darkness and that star is shining there for those people. In the pageant world, presence is vital. A pageant star is a woman who is ready to say yes to travel wherever she is needed most. From early morning hours to late nights, the pageant star has to be ready to serve the world around her.
– A star in the galaxy burns from natural energy and doesn’t turn off until they die.
Pageant stars are the same! These women are the type that have a natural fuel keeping them passionate, serving, and forward-moving. A true pageant star needs this natural fuel otherwise she’d be exhausted trying to fake it.
A true pageant star is a woman who’s light shines brightly, not from her own power, but a natural source within her, and is able to be seen even in the darkest situation.
So, to recap, Stars do 3 things: it can be seen from a far distance, it is always there, it is fueled by a natural energy.
Think of a lamp. No one turns on a lamp and then puts it under a basket. They light the lamp and put it on a table so it will light the whole house. The Bible points this out in Matthew 5:15, right after it says that YOU are the light of the world.
Did you hear that? You. Sitting where you are right now at your computer, at the gym, in your home, in your car You, my dear, ARE the light of the world.
God wants you to shine! Why? Because, He knows that if you are shining, people will put you up on a freakin’ table, girl! Haha! No one will hide you in a basket.
THIS is why people elevate star quality. They can’t help but put the lamp on the table to light the whole house.
I promise you this: If you let your light shine, you will be placed on top.
You are designed to be the head and not the tail. Above and not beneath. God said You are the light of the world. Let it shine, sister!
How? You ask. Simple: Shine light. Light is basically everything that is positive: Whatever is true, noble, whatever is right, pure, lovely, admirable if anything is excellent or praiseworthy think about such things (Philippians 4:8).
Do not let negative, fear-based, anxious, nasty, condescending, or untrue lies leave your lips. That is darkness. You are called to be the light.
Do the right thing. Help people in need. Say nice things that lift people up and light up their spirits. Be lovely, and pure. Think about excellent things. Think, act, and speak things that are worthy of praise.
Imagine that every time you do something that is noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, a handful of sparkling glitter falls from the sky and sticks to you, following you around everywhere you go. The more glitter you throw around the brighter your light shines.
Now, just because it’s simple doesn’t mean it’s easy. It’s not. You have an adversary working against you. Always coming at you with evil, unkind, nasty thoughts about you, your circumstances, and others around you. These nasty thoughts make you wanna act nasty and then create more nasty-ness around you.
You have to throw glitter around from a source that is not your own. This is where you’re gonna need God’s grace. When those nasty thoughts come into your mind, you need to refuel with God. The best way to do this is to repeat the mantra, “I am the light of the world. I am the light of the world.” This is in Matthew 5:14 if you want to look it up. When you anchor back to this manta, it acts as a sword to cut out the evil thoughts and replace it with noble, pure, positive thoughts.
This is why not everyone is a star. Because, although it is a simple concept it is not so easy to implement.
Still, you are called to do this. And, I sincerely hope you will accept this challenge. I want you to be a pageant star! I want you to be the woman that lights up a room, that everyone is drawn to, and when a judge asks why you, she says, I don’t know, she just had this certain quality about her. I want glitter to stick to your whole entire body and shine light around the entire world!
I know God wants this for you too. You have a call on your life to be great and you need to get people to put you up on the table.
Let your light shine so the whole world will see.
Remember, that song from when you were a kid, This Little Light of Mine? This is a great one to get stuck in your head every morning.
Here’s a great rendition of this song. Pay attention to what the judges say at the end about how they felt and how they struggle to even describe it… star quality:
Shine your light, my dear. Shine it brightly, all the time, no matter where you are or who you are with, fueled on God’s promises. You are the light of the world.
Hey, girl! Welcome to the Win A Pageant podcast, I’m your coach, Alycia Darby. There are plenty of opportunities for you to answer questions during your pageant interview, on-stage question, introduction, pre-pageant media it can get overwhelming to prepare if you have no specific plan.
Most women want to be so perfect, so they craft these elaborate answers to every question under the sun.
“Ok, if they ask me why I chose to study science, I’ll say…”
“If they ask me what my favorite subject is, I’ll say…”
It seems like a great idea. Especially if they give you the questions in advance like many pageants do. I was working with a client in Pennsylvania who was given all 50 possible questions that could be asked on stage. Before our coaching call, she started writing different answers (all truly wonderful) to each question. It took her forever and when I asked her one of them she would scroll through her long word doc to find her answer and ….. it was awful.
Don’t do that. Writing Your pageant answers is a huge mistake! Instead, I’m gonna teach you what I taught her to help you overcome this crazy desire to be overly (and obnoxiously) prepared.
Writing out answers to possible questions will inevitably confuse you, force you to stay within a box you created for yourself, hinder your personality, and drive you crazy! Ha!
Instead, I want you to plan your answers.
Lump them into categories
If you get a pile of possible questions, like my client did, first lump them into categories. It’s likely they are asking the same thing in many different ways. Make big categories like education, platform, passions, family, memories, etc. I did this for my client and the questions fit into three main categories:
1. why did you choose your platform
2. What have you done with your platform
3. What are your platform goals.
Of course the questions were all different like “If you win, what will you want to accomplish?” and “If you had $5,000 to spend on your platform, what you would do with it?” One solid answer will fit both of these questions… see what I mean?
Analogy for Planning Answers
When you plan your answers, it’s like spilling a box of Legos onto the floor in front of you. If a judge asks you for a blue one, you can quickly grab a blue one. If you don’t have the Legos in front of you when you’re asked for a blue one, you gotta walk to your kid brother’s toy chest, dig out the Legos box and then spill it on the floor. Or worse you gotta drive to Target to buy Legos! That’s how it feels when you get asked a question and you haven’t planned an answer for it. Or you are asked for a blue and you only have red and yellow.
This analogy is sorta silly, but I think you get what I mean.
You need to plan a story to share for a variety of life categories, not specific answers.
Lemme give you an example. Let’s say that I want to communicate that I raised $25,000 for my platform in a week with a kick-starter campaign. That’s the answer. It will work with many different questions like:
Q: “If you won, what would you do first for your platform?”
A: I would launch another campaign! Last year I launched a kick-starter campaign that raised $25,000 for my platform. I’d plan another launch for 6 months from now and use every appearance and social media opportunity to get people excited about it so when it launches it would quadruple the success!
Q: “How would you spend $5,000 toward your platform?”
A: I’d hire a kick-starter expert. Last year I launched a kick-starter campaign that raised $25,000 for my platform. I did it all from my own skill set, but with the help of an expert, it’s likely I’d be able to 10x that result!
Q: “What is your biggest accomplishment?”
A: My kick-starter campaign
Q: “What legacy do you want to leave?”
A: Kick-starter fundraising success!
See what’s happening here? I’m using the same planned answer – not memorized or written out – to respond to similar questions.
Most women want to say more, but the key here is to only have a few Legos on the floor in front of you and each one of them is excellent. When you plan your answers you prepare enough Legos to respond with excellence and not be overwhelmed.
This is a Game Changer! When you unlock this strategy, you unlock a whole lot of space in your brain and you streamline your message to make sense to the judges in a very short amount of time. And that, my dear, is how you win a pageant.
I’m honored that you’d join me on the Win A Pageant podcast. If this podcast has been a blessing to you this year, then I’d love for you to share it with someone. This time of year is a great opportunity to catch up on old podcast trainings and if you shared it with someone else they may enjoy listening during holiday travels or while you’re on break from school and work. You can text it or email a link to someone straight from the podcast app, or send them to WinAPageant.com/Podcast.
It’d also be a beautiful gift to me! I put a lot of work into bringing you these podcasts each week and it would mean the world to me if you would share it with some of your pageant sisters. God blesses you so you are able to bless others!
This holiday season I’m traveling with my husband and our friends to explore Vietnam and Cambodia. I’ll be back on January 9th, so the next podcast will be on Win-A-Pageant Wednesday, January 11th.
Have a blessed holiday season and be sure to bless everyone around you!
Thank you so much for listening. Talk to you in the new year!
Hey, girl! Today is the day! If you are joining me on the day this podcast is live December 14th then you are in luck, chica! Today is the final 2016 Pageant Interview Master Class – “The 4 Steps to Gain Confidence in Your Pageant Interview”. This is the last time I’ll be teaching this exact material for free.
Join me Live on Facebook today at 3:00pm San Diego time (that’s 6:00pm ET) on the WinAPageant Facebook page. We’re talking about how to connect with the judges, and the 4 steps that HAVE to be a part of your pageant interview preparation strategy. If you are serious about winning your pageant this year, you need to be a part of this free training to get your ducks all lined up, girl!
If you’re the type of girl that won’t remember, tell Siri to remind you right now or go to Facebook.com/WinAPageant and like the page so you’ll get a notification when we go live later today. See you this afternoon!
Ok.. let’s dive into today’s episode of the Win A Pageant Podcast. I’m your coach Alycia Darby. Most women know they need to practice for their interview, but it tends to get confusing on exactly HOW to practice. Today, I’m going to break down the 3 ways of practicing for your pageant and give you some examples of how you can do each one.
This is practice that doesn’t require much effort. It’s Googling around for questions online and then thinking in your mind how you may answer them. Or, flipping through pageant flash cards asking yourself questions. It’s low effort because it doesn’t require anyone else be a part of it. I believe this type of practice is important. So much so that I actually give all my VIP clients custom Flash Cards they can use to practice. But, this alone isn’t going to win you the pageant it’s easy to do, but doesn’t have much reward.
Real Life Practice
It requires far more effort. This is when you are interviewed by a media station or share a q-and-a from stage as visiting royalty at an appearance. It’s real life practice that requires some effort because it involves more than just you sitting at your desk. It requires a plan, an outfit, a microphone, a whole set of circumstances to support the practice. It pays off, too! But, still not as much as the third form of practice.
Mock Interview Practice
Ya can’t beat it! It takes a ton of effort, but has the greatest reward for your success in your pageant because it is a simulation of the actual experience. It gives you the best opportunity to feel the true emotions of the interview process and practice your skills in the exact environment. It takes some effort to set up because there are lots of other people involved, you are responsible to find a location, invite the right people, lead the process, explain it to the mock judges, film it, thank everyone… it’s not easy, but then if it were, everyone would be doing it.
If you want to win your pageant, you have to out-practice to out-perform the competition. A good rule-of-thumb is to plan a mock interview once a month. After monthly interviews, you’ll have the process down, you’ll know how to distinguish valuable verses silly feedback that you’ll get, and you’ll be practiced, but not rehearsed.
Mock Interview practice gives you the best opportunity to feel the true emotions of the interview process.
Not all practice is created equal. It is not enough to scroll through questions online and think you are prepared. Schedule a mock interview to get some experience to increase your confidence. That my dear, is how you win a pageant!
Thank you so much for joining me today. I’ll see you this afternoon at Facebook.com/WinAPageant for our final Master Class of the year!
Hey, girl! Welcome to another episode of the Win A Pageant podcast, I’m your coach, Alycia Darby. Pageant Interview is the most nerve-wracking part of pageantry. You have to loosen up a bit before your pageant interview so that you can perform in the best way possible. Tricks like imagining the judge’s naked doesn’t work because it takes your mind off of the whole process you need your mind to make this work! Today, I want to share with you 5 tips to loosen up in your pageant interview AND connect with your judges.
Serve, Love, and Give More Than You Take.
Anytime we shift our focus to serving rather than being served, to loving rather than being loved, and to giving rather than receiving, we regain a sort of power. It’s like being the junior counselor at summer camp. Abuse the privilege and they’ll send you home. Be the best darn counselor at camp and next year they’ll promote you. Women want to walk out of the interview room feeling like the judges served them the best questions, oo’ed and awe’ed over all their great personality, and gave them 10’s on the way out. Want a 10? Be a 10. Serve them the answers they need. Love their questions as though they are all worthy. Give them your generous approval. Everyone wants to be loved…even the judges. Make them feel like a million bucks and the pressure is off of you.
Assume the Best.
The nature of pageantry makes assumptions run wild. Especially if you don’t have formal pageant training or coaching, it’s easy to assume all sorts of wacky things to try to explain how you did. Usually, these assumptions come from a place of fear. If a judge coughs when you mention you go to church every week with your Grandma, you suddenly believe he’s atheist and you offended him or maybe he doesn’t have a grandma and you offended him… you start second guessing all your values to please someone you don’t even know. Stop that. Don’t assume anything. Just do you. When we start telling ourselves stories about what we think the judges are thinking we throw off the interview and the rest of the competition. If a judge is looking out the window during your whole interview, assume she has 2 lazy eyes that were glued to you the entire time.
When you assume the best of people, you react from a place of love and beauty which is always most attractive.
Smile More and Laugh at Least Once.
You’re the leader. If you are smiling and laughing, they will naturally follow suit. Every girl loves when she makes the judges laugh and by the way, the judges like it too! You don’t have to be a comedian to say something worthy of crackin’ a giggle either. A light giggle can go a long way to break the tension in the room and make everyone more comfortable.
It isn’t a race. It’s more like coaxing a deer at a petting zoo to eat from your hand. You can’t overwhelm the situation, but you do have to stick your hand out there with a sweet treat. Everyone has the same amount of time in the interview and if you come off as rushing through the answers, or hurrying out of the room you’ll appear anxious. Instead, before you walk in, take a deep, slow breath. Be responsible for the pace of the questions and prepared to use inflection, thoughtful pauses, and welcomed sidebars to guide them into eating out of your hands. Take your time and when they get there, everyone will settle in.
The only way to get super-great at anything is by spending more hours doing that thing. Sure, girls win pageants on their first try, but that doesn’t mean they’re great at the craft. Check on them at nationals and they’ll come up short. You’ve heard it said (maybe even said it yourself) that being a titleholder is a job. You have to work at it like it’s your job. You have to schedule monthly mock interviews. Put yourself on a media tour. Listen and filter feedback from a variety of people. And Train as though you’re receiving a degree in pageantry. Practicing will help you gain confidence and poise when it’s time for the real deal.
That my dear is how you win a pageant!
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I’m gushing at the seams from how proud I am of the women in the Pageant Interview Game Plan. They are so dedicated to their success and by their ‘success’ I don’t just mean them winning the pageant, but influencing their community in such a powerful way.
The Pageant Interview Game Plan is an online course that consists of 4 modules: Set Your Foundation, Plan Your Answers, Prepare to Dazzle, and Game Day: Showtime! These are the four steps that must be followed to nail your pageant interview. Each module is broken up into individual lessons that have homework for each one to get you further down the path to success. It’s designed to allow you to finish one module every week.
Some of the women are flying through it much faster and others are taking their time to allow it to soak in a little deeper. Either way is fine because when you join, you have on-going access to it, so there’s really no time limit except for when you have to compete, of course!
It comes with a Play Book that serves as a guide to get to know yourself, clarify your mission, research what the pageant is looking for, determine your stance on controversial issues, and tons of stuff that will transport you easily from confusion to clarity.
It also comes with access to a private group on Facebook that is only open to members of the course. This is where I get to see all the magic happening! Every week day, I jump into the Facebook Group and get to answer questions to help my students excel in the program. And, boy-oh-boy are they taking advantage of this personal coaching opportunity!
I wanted to share with you some of what is happening in there so you could see if this is a community that may help you with your pageant interview.
Samantha said, “I’m competing in Miss Arizona USA this weekend! Soooo thankful for this coaching. I feel so prepared and confident.” I love the emoji she used it’s the cha-cha gal in the red dress, you know which one I mean. That’s one of my favorite emoji’s! haha
Courtney competed just 3 weeks after she got into the program and she was sharing gratitude for her supporters and said:”To my coach, Alycia Darby, without her services I would have walked into that interview still and awkward. You let me be myself and I can’t wait to train even harder this year so we bring that crown home! Thank you for believing in me.” Courtney is a model and rockstar with her platform. She’s providing so much nourishment to the other women in the group. Everyone knows her by now!
Rita is a computer science major and recently interviewed with Microsoft. She said, “Who would’ve thought that pageant interview prep would have helped me with my first round of interview with Microsoft?!” It was all about personality and she knew herself well enough that she could confidently speak about herself even to a Microsoft rep!
Caitlen competed 2 weeks into the course and finished as first runner-up! Afterward, she posted a picture of her stunning interview outfit and willingly shared all the details of where she got it all. She wrote, “I placed 1st Runner up at the Miss Oregon USA pageant. Alycia’s interview game plan works! I felt so confident going into my interview. Thank you again.”
Angie and her daughter Emily are in the Game Plan. When Emily was competing this weekend, her mom was posting photos for us to be able to cheer her on! Her mom wrote, “Emily had an outstanding interview! She said the judges were sad that the time was up and she made them laugh. I think that’s a good sign!”
You’re right, Angie that is a great sign!!
You’ve heard me say before that with me, you always get more than you pay for. I love presents, surprises, and treats so I promise to over-deliver every time. In the case of the Pageant Interview Game Plan, I have a ton of bonus trainings to help with other areas of competition as well.
Like the wardrobe style guide – This training breaks down how to define your personal style and what to wear in the interview room.
There’s also a training that shows you how to stand, pose, and move on stage to model your gown, active-wear, and swimsuit, and how to walk in general.
When you join the Pageant Interview Game Plan, you have the option to get a Mock Interview with me over Skype. I record the interviews so you can watch them back and give yourself feedback. At the end of the mock interview, I always give an assignment and Amanda literally finished her assignment within 30 minutes and posted it in the group for immediate feedback. With that speed of implementation, she’s gonna be a huge success!
She came to her interview completely prepared in hair and makeup and accessories! I wouldn’t have been surprised if she was wearing her heels, too! She’s an A-player, for sure.
I learned so much from speaking with Samantha. She is extremely well-read and experienced in a variety of areas of human behavior. She’s a true leader.
I’d like to invite you to join us in the Pageant Interview Game Plan.
We are right in the middle of the enrollment period for the Game Plan, so you can join now (unless you’re listening to this podcast a month after it launched, then you may have to wait until sometime in the new year when enrollment opens again).
But as the time of this podcast airing, it’s open for you to join! Private Coaching like this would usually cost you $900 every time you wanted the support. This program is less than $300, and since our group is relatively small still, you’ll be able to get lots of personal attention.